Meet Kevin.

For years, I thought everyone else found life just as hard as I did.

I didn't realise I was carrying an invisible backpack that most people weren't.

From the outside, life looked successful. I built a career, led teams, started businesses, became a husband and a dad, and even run marathons.

Inside, though, everything seemed to take more effort than it should. I overthought conversations, questioned myself constantly, and struggled to understand why life felt harder for me than it appeared to for everyone else.

I didn't realise I was carrying a story that had started in childhood.

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Diagnosed… then told I was "better"

I was diagnosed with ADHD as a child in the United States and prescribed Ritalin for around three years.

Then I was told something that shaped the next thirty years of my life.

"You're doing much better now."

"You don't have ADHD anymore."

So I believed it.

I never questioned it. I simply assumed that whatever I was experiencing was normal, and that everyone else must be putting in the same amount of effort. I just wasn't doing it as well.

I believed the answer was always the same.

Try harder.

Be more disciplined.

Get organised.

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Learning to work hard

I've never been afraid of hard work.

I spent over twenty years in professional kitchens, including twelve years as a Head Chef leading busy teams where pressure, organisation, and quick decision-making were part of everyday life.

Later, I moved into corporate, spending years with tech companies. I worked with entrepreneurs across the UK and Europe and led a business development team in a fast-paced environment.

Those experiences shaped who I became as a leader, but they also hid how much harder I was working behind the scenes.

They also taught me something else.

Some of the most capable people quietly believe they're falling behind.

I understood that feeling better than I realised.

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Running taught me something coaching would later confirm

Marathon training became another teacher in my life.

I've completed multiple marathons over the years, and one lesson has stayed with me.

Progress rarely comes from pushing harder.

It comes from understanding what works for you, being consistent, and trusting the next step.

At the time I thought I was learning about running.

Looking back, I was learning about life.

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Everything changed when our son was diagnosed

The turning point came when our son was diagnosed with ADHD.

As I learned more about ADHD to support him, something unexpected happened.

I began recognising myself.

Patterns I'd carried since childhood suddenly made sense.

The constant effort. The overwhelm. The overthinking. The self-criticism.

The feeling that no matter how hard I tried, it never quite felt enough.

For the first time, I wasn't looking at ADHD as something to fix.

I was looking at it as something to understand.

That understanding changed everything.

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Why I became an ADHD coach

Looking back, I realised my life hadn't been difficult because I lacked ability.

It had been difficult because I was trying to live by systems that were never designed for how my brain works.

Understanding that changed everything.

It changed the way I worked.

The way I parented.

The way I led people.

And perhaps most importantly...

The way I spoke to myself.

Today, I'm completing accredited ADHD coach training through ADDCA while combining lived experience with decades of leadership experience.

I don't coach because I've got all the answers.

I coach because I know what it's like to spend years believing you simply need to try harder.

My role isn't to push you or tell you what to do.

It's to create a calm, supportive space where you can slow things down, notice patterns, understand how your brain works, and decide what comes next.

Because that's the conversation I wish someone had offered me years ago.

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What I've learned

For years, I thought I needed to become someone different.

What I actually needed was to understand myself differently.

That changed everything.

Now it's the space I aim to create for the people I coach.

There isn't anything wrong with you.

You may simply have been measuring yourself against systems that were never designed for the way your brain works.

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